Bride backed for charging woman over uninvited children
Members of a popular internet forum have defended a newlywed after explaining why they accused a mother of bringing her two children to their wedding.
In a viral Reddit post posted to r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/Conscious-Bit-453 (otherwise known as the original poster, or OP) said they were fined for violating the limits of capacity of their wedding venue and have detailed the harshness of the mother. response to their request for additional money.
Entitled, “[Am I the a**hole] for charging my wedding guest for bringing [an] uninvited plus 2?”, the viral post received nearly 8,200 votes and 700 comments over the past day.
Writing that they were married in a small venue with strict capacity limits, the original poster stated that one of their wedding guests was unexpectedly accompanied by his two children, neither of whom were invited.
“One of my guests showed up with her [two] kids, who weren’t invited, not in the RSVP and obviously not in the seating chart,” OP wrote. “She walked in, decided to seat them at her table, taking away the seats of my other guests who were actually invited.”
“A little commotion broke out when she refused to return those seats, and the venue manager noticed and said we would be charged an over capacity fine as per the contract,” they said. added.
After the wedding, the original poster said it redirected the fine to the mother-of-two and asked her to pay for the extra costs incurred in bringing her children.
“She claimed it wasn’t her fault and that I should have taken the unforeseen changes into account when budgeting for my wedding,” OP wrote. “And she couldn’t find a babysitter, so she had no choice, and I should be grateful that she made the effort to attend my wedding anyway.”
Weddings, primarily meant to celebrate the unity and coming together of communities, often follow tight schedules and feature strict guest lists.
And while most engaged couples and wedding planners formulate meticulous plans and solutions for any potential issues, unexpected circumstances are, for lack of a better term, to be expected.
In the case of uninvited wedding guests, WeddingWire recommends that couples first inform guests that no tagalongs will be permitted, regardless of age. But for customers unaware of applicable regulations, it is recommended that a third party handle the situation in a calm and accommodating manner.
“Politely but firmly, let [guests] Please be aware that due to your venue capacity and budget constraints, you can only accommodate those on the official guest list, no exceptions,” WeddingWire claims.
If some attendees are not on the guest list, “feel free to let your site coordinator or planner know so the person can be discreetly removed.”
Although the original poster’s site manager was able to mitigate the “little commotion” caused by their guests and uninvited children, OP was eventually fined for exceeding capacity limits and harassing after passing the invoice to the responsible party.
However, throughout the comments section of the viral post, Redditors responding to the original poster were adamant that they were absolutely justified in expecting the mother-of-two to cover the cost of additional marriage.
“[Not the a**hole] but your ex-friend is,” Redditor u/Ducky818 wrote in the lead comment of the post, which received nearly 14,000 votes.
“She definitely had a choice: she could have stayed home with her. [two] children,” they added. “There should be no unexpected costs at a wedding, especially not those involving people who were NOT invited.”
“I like people who absolutely refuse to take responsibility for their own actions,” added Redditor u/FoolMe1nceShameOnU. “Of course, it was her fault. She literally did it. And now she can face the consequences of actions that are hers and hers alone.”
In a separate comment, Redditor u/peithecelt said they would normally believe wedding guests should never be charged extra, but the guest portrayed by the original poster is an exception.
“This is one of those questions I NEVER thought I’d vote on [not the a**hole] on… but you are 100 [percent] clear about the repercussion of that cost,” they wrote. “If you need to make a change like this for a wedding, you CALL the bride (or bridesmaid) and ASK.”
“You don’t suddenly add [two] people at the price without asking like that,” they continued.
Newsweek contacted u/Conscious-Bit-453 for comment.